How To Choose Friend

Friend is important for us because it is our second family. As a human being we cannot live alone without others in this world. Even though you are a great person, you cannot live alone because you need others to help and support you whoever you are and whatever you do. Having a good relation with others is very important for us. It is because good relationship will lead us to happiness. Choosing friend is a little hard thing because we have so many differences from each other. If we make mistakes in choosing friend, we will regret it. It is because friend is really influencing us in every side such as mind set, behavior, academic, etc. If we choose a good friend we will be a good person but if we choose a bad friend we will be as bad as our friend. There are three steps in choosing friend they are, mingle with everybody, get closer with everyone, and choose people who make you be yourself and feel comfort.

Mingle with everybody that you just know in a new environment is the first step that you have to do. In a new environment you will feel strange and awkward, because there is no one that you know. However, it is not a reason for you not to mingle with others. By mingling, you can start to make friends. The important thing is you must be friendly with others. Being friendly is the simplest way to start to mingle with others. Giving your smile and say hello to them is a simple and nice way to show that you are a friendly person. However, you have to remember not to be over friendly. Then, introduce yourself as who you are. Let them know your name, origin, and age at the beginning of introduction. Keep the personal introduction at the next step. Do not be afraid to meet new people. By meeting new people, we can also get more option to choose friends.

The second step is get closer with everyone. In this step, try to find people that have the same interests as you and can give you advantages. You will know each other well, sharing about your hobbies, like and dislike and your personality more. Hanging out is one of thousand ways to know each other. Remember that you have to be yourself, do not push yourself to be always looked good in front of them, if you do not want to be. It is because, everyone likes to have a friend who is can be their self. Do not use a “mask” to have a lot of friends. Then, try to find people that can give you advantages. Advantage here is the influence caused by friends. Are they good enough to be your friends? Can they make you feel better? Do they really understand you? Those are questions that can help you decide what kind of people you want to be your friends. Then, you have to be open-minded to others. In this step, you may share to all of them about you but still you should keep your personal secret.

The last is choosing friend who makes you be yourself and feel comfortable. Getting closer with others does not mean you will feel comfortable. Comfort will be in a friendship if you understand each other. Friend who can accept you the way you are is a real friend. Friend does not judge you as bad or good, but friend states you as they friend even family. Sometimes, people cannot accept other as the way they are and sometimes they try to change others by their way as they want. You should be careful about this. Friendship is not about changing somebody to be who we want him or her to be. Friendship is about how to make somebody feel better and happy, accept and also love each other. There is no exception in a friendship. Real friends will stand by you in every conditions, happy or sad, rich or poor, healthy or sick. If you do not feel comfortable with them, do not push yourself to still close with them. You will be hurt someday.

Choosing friends is not as easy as you imagine. You have to mingle with everybody, get closer with everyone and choose the best one to be your friend. If you make mistakes in making friends, it will affect you in mind set, behavior, and also lifestyle. Be careful and do not be afraid of having friends because they are the most important thing for us.